Smoking

LuvMyAutisticSon asked:


I love my husband dearly but wish he would quit smoking. I know I can’t make him quit, and I do good not to bother him about it constently, I just drop a few hints now and then. He gets mad at me if I won’t buy cigarettes for him. I can’t help it, I want him to quit so I feel bad if I do buy them. Is that so wrong of me? My grandfather died of lung cancer due to smoking most of his life. I don’t want to see my husband die from it too. I love him too much. I tease him and tell him if he loves me and the kids he would quit. He teases back and says if I love him, I would pick some up when I’m at the store. His father smokes too and he’s developing a really nasty cough from it. Does he not see how bad it is? He says he doesnt care, it helps him relieve stress. How can I convince him there are better things out there for that? I mean, I’m right here…the kids are here…isn’t that strong enough motive? And the smell! Makes the kids stink when he holds them. Its horrible! What can I say?
My kids are 21 mo and 6 mo old. I know its extremely bad for them as well when it comes off of his clothes. The doctor has told him this. The oldest, my son, had sleep apnea when he was younger. I think daddy smoking was part of it. Hes real good about smoking outside the house but he doesn’t get it that it is still in his clothes. I know its his decision, but its mine and the kids too isn’t it? I mean we are suffering too in a different context of course. Him internally, us watching him hurt himself and getting second hand smoke as well. I know the kids are little and don’t know the difference, but Im concerned for their heatlh as well. If he doesn’t care about himself, he should as least care about them.