Smoking

SunnyState23 asked:


I told my fiance before we were engaged that I would not marry a smoker. Now that we are engaged I hear him tell people that he needs to quit before we get married. Now there are 4 months left before the wedding, and he is still smoking a pack a day. He knows I am serious about this, and I know he does have a hard time quitting (he has tried twice in the past year).

I don’t know what to do and how to help him quit. I feel that if I nag I will make matters worse. I really want him to quit for selfish reasons, but I think they are reasonable. Every “older” person I know that has smoked their whole lives have had some sort of health disorder due to smoking. Three have had lung cancer, the other had two heart attacks. And I don’t want myself and our kids to have to deal with this in the future. I know I can’t tell what will happen, but this is something that is preventable!
I know this is selfish, but I want to spend the rest of my life with him.

Any suggestions on how to help?